Old saying: “son-in-law mo grave, grave insult ancestors” why son-in-law can not grave, have no reason
The funeral system is an important part of Chinese culture, which contains many small rules.Some of them are our fine traditions and should be preserved.But some parts, do not meet the requirements of ethics, such as “son-in-law do not go to the grave, grave insult ancestors” provisions.Five thousand years ago, Yu, one of the three Sovereigns and five emperors, was elected tribal chief for his meritorious service in controlling floods.Yu’s son was the first ruler of the feudal dynasty, which opened the prelude of Chinese cultural history.With the passage of time, all kinds of cultural ethics and institutions and customs have taken root and grown up in China.Some cultures have broken down, but most have survived intact, and burial is one of them.In the society before the Zhou Dynasty, if someone died, the relatives would put the body in a coffin and bury it in the earth, and there was no unnecessary funeral and sacrifice activities.During the Zhou Dynasty, the ritual system prevailed, and the whole dynasty began to stipulate all kinds of ritual systems from top to bottom. As an important part of people after death, the overall system also changed greatly, from simple digging pit and burying earth into a very complex form.The funeral system began in the Zhou Dynasty and has survived for thousands of years.At the heart of the funerary system in all dynasties was strict hierarchy. Other rules, such as the type and number of funerary objects, the posture of the people buried with them, and the rules of the mausoleum, were different.Funeral arrangements also change from place to place.In ancient Tibet, sky burials were popular, in which the bodies of the dead were placed on the roofs of temples at high altitudes for vultures to peck at.Tibetans believe that the vulture is the closest bird to the sky, through this way can let the soul of the dead into heaven;The ancient people in the north invented ice burial because of the geographical location, that is, people were put into the frozen soil and ice for freezing;In coastal areas, sea burials are popular…The fundamental reason why ancient Chinese people attach so much importance to funeral lies in ancient Chinese myths and legends.The ancients believed that the life of the dead after death was the same as in life, with consciousness, activity and the ability to see living people.Therefore, the deceased should be treated differently from the death of other animals, and they should express their visiting and serving hearts with specific rituals on time.Since ancient times, what kind of example is made by the royal inner palace, folk have been imitated accordingly.Although the form is simpler than that of the princes and nobles, there are also various rules and regulations, such as: the time of suspension, the size of the funeral procession, the dress of mourning, the ritual of sacrifice, the location of burial and so on.These tedious rules evolved from the same central principle: make your own death prosperous, make your descendants last, and keep your family alive.Therefore, the ancients believed in feng Shui and qi and strictly followed the relevant regulations on burial.The funeral system is divided into two parts. Of course, the burial of the deceased is important, but the subsequent sacrificial activities are also indispensable.Not to disturb the souls of the dead;Do not destroy the family air;Chinese sacrifices also have strict rules for allowing deceased ancestors to protect their children and grandchildren.The most profound combination with the sacrificial system is the ancient patriarchal system.In ancient times, people of a large family often lived in the same garrison. In order to offer sacrifices and inherit family culture better, the ancestral hall in the patriarchal system came into being, and has continued to today’s society.There are still a large number of ancient ancestral temples in Shandong or Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. The site selection and construction pattern of these ancestral temples all follow the ancestral law.In the long years, countless descendants pray for peace and worship their ancestors in these ancestral halls.In the sacrificial ritual system, the site has strict requirements, but the more strict requirements are for the sacrificial participants.For example, some things in sacrificial activities can only be done by the eldest son and grandson;People of different generations should carry different sacrificial articles;Brothers and sisters should observe different manners, etc.One important point is that husbands and sons-in-law of foreign wives are not allowed to participate in sacrificial activities.In the feudal society, this funeral custom is observed in many places, and the reasons for the son-in-law not to attend the grave are generally as follows: First, in the old society, once a woman marries outside, she becomes a member of her husband’s family.The surname must be preceded by the husband’s surname, such as the famous “Kang Wang shi” and “Hang Bai Shi” in costume dramas.A woman is also buried in her husband’s ancestral tomb after her death.After getting married, the woman is a stranger in the eyes of the family, the woman’s husband can not be counted as a family man, naturally can not give family ancestors grave.Second, son-in-law and in this family, and without blood relationship, if the offer to our ancestors, it is easy to crash the ancestors, which affects the whole family’s fate, or the family of the woman’s fate transferred to in-laws, ancient people attach great importance to family’s fate, hope family in leafy, nature does not make the son-in-law “destiny”.Moreover, the ancient families were all male, and the decision-making power in the family was in the hands of men. In the family, women would be criticized not only for participating in management, but also for showing up in public.Family activities such as offering sacrifices to the grave are usually done by men, and if the son-in-law comes to the grave, it means that there are no more men in the family who can make decisions.Such a move would not only displease the ancestors who hoped for the prosperity of their descendants, but also make other families laugh at them.Finally, the reason why the male members of the family can attend the sacrificial ceremony is that they have the whole inheritance right of the family and can inherit the family property and share the property.However, in ancient times, women could not participate in the inheritance of property as they do in modern society, and the dowry was the only property they could get from their parents’ family.If the son-in-law came back to visit the grave, it meant that he was fighting for the woman’s family property, and the men in the family naturally had to defend their own wealth.03 Conclusion “son-in-law should not go to the grave, go to the grave to insult the ancestors” is a kind of funeral custom on the surface, but actually reflects the low social status of women in feudal society.In the feudal society, men were the core and women were just unimportant accessories.This ideology has greatly lost the human rights of women, which is unfair and even more serious discrimination and bondage to women, causing countless women to lose their lives.Chinese culture has a long history, and many excellent civilizations and traditions should be carried forward by the Chinese people, but the dross part of the civilization handed down should be abandoned.Only by taking its essence and making continuous progress can the whole nation become better and better.Pictures from the network, such as infringement, contact to delete!